June 12th, by Nick Notas 27 Comments. Everywhere I look, people preach that passionless long-term relationships and marriages are inevitable. Women supposedly lose their desires while men are forever frustrated. They claim you have to accept your miserable fate and learn to laugh about it. There are so many couples where both parties feel unfulfilled.
My girlfriend won't have sex with me. Been nearly 2 years. What to do?
My girlfriend doesn't want sex anymore
My girlfriend and I have been going out for about 18 months, and we have been living together for six months. When we started the relationship, sex was very good and quite regular at least two or three times a week but over the last five to six months it has been not so regular - once a fortnight if that. We are still quite close and affectionate with each other, so there seems to be nothing wrong there. But I feel she is no longer interested in sex with me because when I try to come on to her, she always says she is tired or has a headache. I feel quite let down by this -- as she says she still wants me to come on to her even though she will probably say no. I feel so confused and scared to approach her sexually as I am afraid she might say, 'No'. She never comes on to me or suggests making love.
But first, an email from a guy who is going through this exact same problem. About six months ago my girlfriend started making excuses every time I tried to kiss her or get close to her. She would tell me that she was busy or that she was feeling tired. I tried doing things around the house to make her feel better and less stressed. I would clean the house for her and do all the cooking and cleaning but she still said she was tired and stressed out from work.
People say communication is the key to a successful relationship. Before you start feeling too lousy about yourself, know there are some much more complex issues at play. Acknowledging these complications is the first step to starting the discussion. Parents with their baby iStock.